Can i ask for spousal support?
I have been in common law marriage with my husband for almost 19 years. We have 4 boys together. Our relationship has been rocky since the beginning. I guess that’s what happens when you don’t take the time to know somebody first.I was 17 and he was 21. He cheated on me when my first son was 8 months old. I never caught him but his friend told me. My world came tumbling down but he denied it nonstop. I left but since i had no money i came back to him so my son didn’t have to suffer. Time passed and i brought my aunt to live with me for a few months while she got back on her feet. We had a strong bond since she is the same age as i am. She went to church and had a boyfriend but was also seeing my brother in law. My husband thought it was okay to try and get with her but i didn’t find out until a month later and that’s because my mom made her come clean with me. He was trying to come on to her but she pushed him away and she didn’t know how to say it to me cause she knew i would be crushed. Needless to say i confronted him and of course he denied it so i left him. That was the most traumatic experience of my life because i knew i was a good wife and didn’t deserve being treated with so much disrespect. After a month passed he went all the way to georgia to beg for me to come back. He swore up and down nothing happened between him and my aunt but just the thought of him insinuating himself to her made me sick to my stomach. Again i felt like i had to return with him cause my son need his house back and i was low on money cause when i lived with him he never let me work. I decided to give it another chance cause he told me he loved me and couldn’t stand the idea of me and my son being gone. I was so young so i was very vulnerable to anything. My mother begged me to stay with her but i couldn’t stand the idea of being a burden to her at age 21. Time passed and all was good at least that’s what i thought. He had his own mechanic shop but i never knew how much money would come in or out. He thought that as long as he paid bills at home he could do whatever he wanted. He started drinking and having friends at shop every single day and started neglecting my son and me. This time i was 26 so i started building some courage and decided that i would no longer put up with his behavior. I started going out and doing my own thing. But one thing, i never stopped taking care of my son. He is my life. My husband started drinking non-stop and hanging with wrong crowd and he lost it all. After he lost it all non of his friends and family especially his mother who i consider a gold digger helped him out. He went to georgia and got help from my brothers and kind of got back on his feet. That’s because he was deep into drinking and god knows what. Needless to say i was back here in texas living with parents and working so that i could finally get him out of my heart and pretty much start over but that was almost impossible cause my son missed him dearly and that was my weakness. He came back and looked for me and pretty much begged for me to go back with him but i wouldn’t budge. We did end up together and he was actually changing and i got pregnant with 2nd child. We moved close to my mother and farther from his family that never helped him. They only get close to him when he is making money especially his mother. 6 years have passed since then and now we have a total of four boys. But now he is 40 and his family are back in the picture and he is starting to act shady again with money and with me. I’ve grown mentally ever since but now we have 4 boys that love him very much. My husband and i really don’t spend any alone time and barely talk because he is overweight and as soon as he sits down he falls asleep. But he does have time for his family and i feel that i have done so much for him and i feel so unappreciated. I even helped him get his green card so that my kids would have their father around. But it seems that whatever i do for him his family receives all benefits except me. I would love to move on but now we have a mobile home that will be paid off soon but we have credit card debts and i and i’m afraid he won’t pay since most of them are under my name. I want to keep my house for my kids of course but i don’t know if i have the same rights living under common law marriage. I also suspect that he is talking to another woman but i really can’t be for sure but the feeling is there. I guess i’ve been through so much with him that i guess i just plain don’t trust him anymore. I’m 36 now and i really want to move on without hurting my kids and i want to make sure they have what they need. Can i get spousal support for all these years that i’ve been with him? i really could use some good advice. I am not afraid of working for them but i feel he should pay as much as possible for all the grief he has put me thru.
I have a marriage certificate that proves we’ve been common law married since 1992. That’s how i was able to help him get his green card as well. Our house is under both names and i have his last name too. We live in texas so i don’t know how they work with spousal support. I would like to keep the house and two vehicles and of course child support.
how can i get him back??? ( this wont be what you think)?
last year in june, the 8th to be exact i got 2 cats,one male and one female.i was fine with them and i loved them very much.especially the male.his name was ginger.around mid july this year my mum gave them away without telling me while i was at school and didnt tell me where they REALLY had gone at first.about 2 weeks after she told me that she had given them away to the rspca.i was devastated.i couldnt stop crying and im still so upset that im contantly holding back tears,somtimes when it gets to bad i breakdown and cry in private and that lets me hold out for another 2 or 3 weekz untill i have to breakdown again.im really depressed and im thinking bout him all the time.i pleaded and begged my mum to bring him back but she wouldnt listen,until about 2 weeks ago when she finally agreed and decided to get him back.but the problem is that she doesnt know where hes gone because the rspca take the animal and send it to some other shelter i think,and i really need 2 know where hes gone.is there some way i can find out where hes gone or something like that because im so desperate and i miss him so bad u cant imagine mw much i miss him.i love him very much hd we had a really strong bond.now that hes gone i feel that a part of me went with him btw i live in the uk
is there any way i can find out which shelter he went to?????/ all ur answers r rlly appreciated
He Cheated on me more than once – I kept taking him back.. dont understand why I would do something like this?
Myself and the ex boyfriend had been together for 8 years! A lifetime to most people. He has gone through 2 marriages. Each where he was the cause of the breakup.. He cheated on both ex wives. When I met him I did not want to date him.. he was not my type and also I was not emotionally stable enough as I had been through enough with a previous relationship where I was devastated it ended. A year after this, one evening I bumped into him at a friend’s home.. I decided to go out on a date with him.. as then I was ready to move on with my life. I knew at the time he was a womanizer and thought to myself hey, just for once in my life I want to not feel any connection to a man and just go into this .. if it works is works, if it doesn’t well so be it… Well on this first date, he told me over candlelit dinner that he was ready to settle down.. he was done with the women and parties as he has now got his son to consider, whom was now living with him as the mother could not control him. I fell for this hook line and sinker. Anyway, this was back in 2002, by 2003 he asked me to marry him, I said yes. We did not get married, as the day he proposed to me.. was also the day we had the biggest and first fight of our entire relationship about his son. 2 Days later we drove down to Cape Town to ask my Dad for my hand in marriage. 3 months later I still had no engagement ring or even the mention of setting a wedding date was basically nonexistent. His family were not aware of his proposal to me and I thought this was quite strange. Anyway, we did not get married at all, but the fighting just got worse, by 2005 I caught him having an affair with a woman that he picked up while doing a gig at a small pub. He is a muso. At the time he was distant, very protective of his phone and had a password put on it, in order for me to not check on his call register. He was having an affair with her for 5 months. At the time, I had bought him a car, as he was riding a bicycle , he was also a policeman, and resigned shortly after we started dating. Part of our fighting was the fact that he had resigned without even planning his future, he left me – his future wife with the burden of paying the bills and putting the food on the table. I provided for us for 3 years until one day, he screamed at me, I must stop sponging off him (We were staying in his house, I was paying the bills for us to survive), and even his very large family thought I was just using him. I made then the decision to buy my own home. I moved out of his house 4 months later, and into my place, I gave him the option to move in with me, which he then did. His son moved in with us as well, at the time he was 16 years of age. Not long after I moved into my place he started the same behaviour as when he was cheating on me in 2005.. I started snooping on his phone again, and found out he was seeing this women, yet again someone he met at a pub while doing a gig. This time nothing had happened yet.. as I had caught it way in time… he managed to convince me that he had made a mistake and will never do it again. I believed him. 5 months after this.. I found some racy pictures of me which he had taken of me in the nude on his son’s computer. I lost it.. I thought he would stick up for me, and send his son packing.. . I was so devastated that he did nothing, we ended up having a huge fight where I kicked him out of my house.. 5 months later.. I begged him to come back to me.! We ended up back together until recently, I found out he was seeing his ex wife again. I have since left him for good… the last conversation we had was him calling me sick (because again I checked his call register) and needing help. He said to me he is single, and that I have no hold on him.. that was our agreement when I begged him back 3 years ago. He said to me, his ex wife is just one of the many women he sees. He also said to me.. I treated you different to them, I treated you with respect!!! I have since found out that on camping trips when which I have not been able to join them, he and the son and a friend had women accompany them.. all the women were arranged by him. How could I have put myself through this for 8 years!! Was my self esteem so low that I put myself second? I am not sure why I did this.. at the time I thought I was going to die without him..and he was my everything.. now I am totally dead inside.. numb to put it mildly… even sick to my stomach… was I dating a psycho for all this time… who has an affair and takes their son with them – he was 15 at the time?
HELP ME! How do you I get him back?
Okay, so here’s what’s going on. I am 13 years old, I’ve been with a guy for 1 year and 2 days. Then he broke up with me. All of our friends were telling us to dump the other. We talked about it a couple of times and I said that they were just jealous. Then randomly he stopped talking to me for about 2 weeks. We had little texting conversations that last about 5-10 minutes. He always said he was busy and he had to go. He said “I love you” first too. Then I called him the night before our one year anniversary. I wanted to spend the day with him. I called him around 8. Well I got him in trouble because his parents hate me. They don’t even know me. So no text, call, or email on our anniversary from him. I felt really bad…I started texting his friend and I asked him if he had heard from him. He had…So I asked him to ask my boyfriend to call me. He said that my boyfriend said that he would get in trouble because his parents say he’s not allowed to talk to me. Now that I can believe. Then all of the sudden his friend said that my boyfriend wanted to break up because he couldn’t handle the “pressure” anymore. He said he’d call me the next day and explain. He never did…And I didn’t expect him to. The next night I accidentally told his friend that I wish things were different between me and my boyfriend. He ended up telling him and my boyfriend said that he didn’t believe me. I just said “Ok believe what you want.” and left it at that. His mom took his computer away so that he couldn’t email me too. So I have no way of contacting him but through his friends. (His friends never liked me so I don’t know if they’re even telling the truth). I’m pretty sure that if his parents would meet me they would like me…And I’m also pretty sure that our relationship could last longer than it did…And better than it was. We got so much crap from everyone because we were the only people to go out for a year in our school. I know that I shouldn’t beg for him back, or cry, or act miserable. I will look insecure…But it’s been 2 days since he dumped me and I’m pretty sure I’m under control. I just would really like some advice on how I could get him back… I swear I’m in love with him. Please don’t say that I’m too young to be “in love” because that’s your opinion…Just give me some advice and I’ll be happy He said he loved me all of the time. I feel like he still does… How can I make this work out between us without being allowed to talk to him? How can I make this work without pushing him away? How can I get his parents to like me? How can I know for sure if his friends are even telling the truth? Thanks for anyone who helps this has been pretty rough over the summer…And I’m really trying to be positive about it too…Oh! And if it doesn’t work out? Can anyone give me advice on how to make myself feel better about this whole situation?? Thank you!
P.S. Sorry this is so long! :p
I’m afraid the only possible solution is to get your mum to contact the RSPCA again and explain how upset you are and that she has changed her mind about wanting to rehome the cats. If you are under 18 the RSPCA can’t deal with you directly.
When she handed the cats over your mum would have had to sign a form to say she had relinquished ownership of the cats. If they have already been placed in a new home the new owner may not be willing to give them back.
Why Do I Miss Him So Much But Don’t Want Him Back?
Hi there,
So there’s this guy, we’ve known each other for about 2 years now and we’ve had an on/off relationship and when we are ‘on’ its great, and occasionally we will last for a while (Our longest is 6 weeks) but he is a serial cheater! Every time we get back together I will end up leaving him because he will cheat on me, EVERY TIME! And I know, I’m stupid for always taking him back and thinking he will change but deep down I know he will never change, anyway, the past 3 months have been a bit tricky because…get this…he has had 8 girlfriends in the space of 3 months-yes, 8! Thankfully I haven’t added to that list, we broke up 3 months ago because once again I found out he was cheating, then 2 days after we broke up I heard down the grapevine that he had broken up with the girl he had cheated on me with and got together with someone else!! Schmuck =/ Recently though he has been emailing me on FB loads, asking to meet up and saying he loves me and putting loads of kisses at the end of each message but he is doing it while he has a girlfriend, and when he is single too. But when we arrange to meet up, he never shows, so I’m sat there like a ninny waiting for him but don’t worry, I’m not doing that anymore because I invite him to my house now instead and at least that way I can watch tele and stuff. But he still doesn’t come, a couple weeks ago he was meant to come to my house but I went to town an hour before he was meant to arrive to have some girly time with my friend and we were waiting at the cash register when sure enough, he passed the shop with his girlfriend, and when I asked my friend what time it was, curious to why he was in town and not on his way to my house, she told me we had just under 20 minutes to get back to mine, well you shouldve seen the anger in my face! How dare he do this to me-AGAIN! I kind of expected it which is why I went into town but I just really wanted to keep up the hope that he would stop being such a let down =( And then we came across his cousin who told me that he had to work which is why he couldn’t come……another schmuck! So it was a routine, every two weeks or so he would split up with a girlfriend, be single for a couple days, then bag a new one, all the while sending me messages telling me he loves me and wants to see me, blah! Load of cr*p!!
But I’m just so confused, because I do want him back, even though he makes me physically sick when I think about him now because he has hurt me so bad, I think I just miss having a boyfriend.
How can I get over him?? How can I get out of this stupid phase of cooing over him even though I hate him at the same time?? I really want him to know how I feel but I’m sick of the emails, last night he gave me his new number and begged me to call him but I didn’t, instead I gave him my number and told him to call me if he ever needed me and he was meant to meet me today but when I emailed him last night for the whole where, when scenario, he didn’t email me back, oh no instead he got a new girlfriend! So he basically just ignored my emails. We haven’t spoken face to face in 3 months and its really gruelling to see him basically prostituting himself like this, 8 girlfriends in the space of 3 months is ridiculous!! I’m one of those people who want something real and stable, a life partner to marry and have kids with-dreamy I know! And I just can’t stop thinking that he is my life partner for some reason…its really getting me down.
HELP PLEASE!!
Oh and please be nice, don’t call me stupid or anything because I already know I am for taking him back so many times and still doting on him but I honestly can’t help it anymore, its like an immediate reaction when we break up, I will think about him for weeks, even months on end and can’t kick him out my system. And I can’t get a new boyfriend because no one likes me for me, I’m not popular so there is an extremely low chance of someone coming along who actually wants me for me and not for a joke or dare. (Yeah, been there done that, wasn’t nice =/.)
Thank You xx
PS. Sorry it’s so long! Oh and I’m 15, he’s recently 17. No I’m not too young for love and yes I did love him, and I don’t know if I still do.
Okay, one thing u need to know about boys and men, a lot of the time we don’t know what we want, and. Its obvious that old boy is stringing u along and having fun with everyone else. It also seem like u have to much time on ur hand to be thinking about one person. This is what u should do, get involve in about 3 activities that take up most of ur days, for every 4 hour u don’t talk to him (internet count), add a day u don’t talk to him, everytime u start thinking about him do a exercise u don’t like at least 20 reps, everytime he call ot text u do a different exercise u don’t like, and everytime someone say his name u got to scream the alphabet. I know it may sound stupid, but if u commit to it, you’ll stop thinking about him, stay or get in shape, and start laughing when u hear his name. Do this for a solid to days, and if it work extend it more and more. Hope everything work out for u.
I think ur relation with this guy is very difficult to maintain becoz u can’t go against everyone, specially ur friends. It will always create probs in ur relationship.
I would say that very young. Don’t get me wrong pls, u have plenty of time, u will meet plenty of people, & u will have plenty of oppurtunities.
Every time we get in a relationship, we think this is it, very hard to get over it, but time is a great healer & things change so dramatically that the things/ppl seem most important to us become completely unimportant some time later.
But anyway, just keep urself busy, study hard, take part in school activities etc & u will get over it.
Can i ask for spousal support?
I have been in common law marriage with my husband for almost 19 years. We have 4 boys together. Our relationship has been rocky since the beginning. I guess that’s what happens when you don’t take the time to know somebody first.I was 17 and he was 21. He cheated on me when my first son was 8 months old. I never caught him but his friend told me. My world came tumbling down but he denied it nonstop. I left but since i had no money i came back to him so my son didn’t have to suffer. Time passed and i brought my aunt to live with me for a few months while she got back on her feet. We had a strong bond since she is the same age as i am. She went to church and had a boyfriend but was also seeing my brother in law. My husband thought it was okay to try and get with her but i didn’t find out until a month later and that’s because my mom made her come clean with me. He was trying to come on to her but she pushed him away and she didn’t know how to say it to me cause she knew i would be crushed. Needless to say i confronted him and of course he denied it so i left him. That was the most traumatic experience of my life because i knew i was a good wife and didn’t deserve being treated with so much disrespect. After a month passed he went all the way to georgia to beg for me to come back. He swore up and down nothing happened between him and my aunt but just the thought of him insinuating himself to her made me sick to my stomach. Again i felt like i had to return with him cause my son need his house back and i was low on money cause when i lived with him he never let me work. I decided to give it another chance cause he told me he loved me and couldn’t stand the idea of me and my son being gone. I was so young so i was very vulnerable to anything. My mother begged me to stay with her but i couldn’t stand the idea of being a burden to her at age 21. Time passed and all was good at least that’s what i thought. He had his own mechanic shop but i never knew how much money would come in or out. He thought that as long as he paid bills at home he could do whatever he wanted. He started drinking and having friends at shop every single day and started neglecting my son and me. This time i was 26 so i started building some courage and decided that i would no longer put up with his behavior. I started going out and doing my own thing. But one thing, i never stopped taking care of my son. He is my life. My husband started drinking non-stop and hanging with wrong crowd and he lost it all. After he lost it all non of his friends and family especially his mother who i consider a gold digger helped him out. He went to georgia and got help from my brothers and kind of got back on his feet. That’s because he was deep into drinking and god knows what. Needless to say i was back here in texas living with parents and working so that i could finally get him out of my heart and pretty much start over but that was almost impossible cause my son missed him dearly and that was my weakness. He came back and looked for me and pretty much begged for me to go back with him but i wouldn’t budge. We did end up together and he was actually changing and i got pregnant with 2nd child. We moved close to my mother and farther from his family that never helped him. They only get close to him when he is making money especially his mother. 6 years have passed since then and now we have a total of four boys. But now he is 40 and his family are back in the picture and he is starting to act shady again with money and with me. I’ve grown mentally ever since but now we have 4 boys that love him very much. My husband and i really don’t spend any alone time and barely talk because he is overweight and as soon as he sits down he falls asleep. But he does have time for his family and i feel that i have done so much for him and i feel so unappreciated. I even helped him get his green card so that my kids would have their father around. But it seems that whatever i do for him his family receives all benefits except me. I would love to move on but now we have a mobile home that will be paid off soon but we have credit card debts and i and i’m afraid he won’t pay since most of them are under my name. I want to keep my house for my kids of course but i don’t know if i have the same rights living under common law marriage. I also suspect that he is talking to another woman but i really can’t be for sure but the feeling is there. I guess i’ve been through so much with him that i guess i just plain don’t trust him anymore. I’m 36 now and i really want to move on without hurting my kids and i want to make sure they have what they need. Can i get spousal support for all these years that i’ve been with him? i really could use some good advice. I am not afraid of working for them but i feel he should pay as much as possible for all the grief he has put me thru.
I have a marriage certificate that proves we’ve been common law married since 1992. That’s how i was able to help him get his green card as well. Our house is under both names and i have his last name too. We live in texas so i don’t know how they work with spousal support. I would like to keep the house and two vehicles and of course child support.
how can i get him back??? ( this wont be what you think)?
btw i live in the uk
last year in june, the 8th to be exact i got 2 cats,one male and one female.i was fine with them and i loved them very much.especially the male.his name was ginger.around mid july this year my mum gave them away without telling me while i was at school and didnt tell me where they REALLY had gone at first.about 2 weeks after she told me that she had given them away to the rspca.i was devastated.i couldnt stop crying and im still so upset that im contantly holding back tears,somtimes when it gets to bad i breakdown and cry in private and that lets me hold out for another 2 or 3 weekz untill i have to breakdown again.im really depressed and im thinking bout him all the time.i pleaded and begged my mum to bring him back but she wouldnt listen,until about 2 weeks ago when she finally agreed and decided to get him back.but the problem is that she doesnt know where hes gone because the rspca take the animal and send it to some other shelter i think,and i really need 2 know where hes gone.is there some way i can find out where hes gone or something like that because im so desperate and i miss him so bad u cant imagine mw much i miss him.i love him very much hd we had a really strong bond.now that hes gone i feel that a part of me went with him
is there any way i can find out which shelter he went to?????/ all ur answers r rlly appreciated
He Cheated on me more than once – I kept taking him back.. dont understand why I would do something like this?
Myself and the ex boyfriend had been together for 8 years! A lifetime to most people. He has gone through 2 marriages. Each where he was the cause of the breakup.. He cheated on both ex wives. When I met him I did not want to date him.. he was not my type and also I was not emotionally stable enough as I had been through enough with a previous relationship where I was devastated it ended. A year after this, one evening I bumped into him at a friend’s home.. I decided to go out on a date with him.. as then I was ready to move on with my life. I knew at the time he was a womanizer and thought to myself hey, just for once in my life I want to not feel any connection to a man and just go into this .. if it works is works, if it doesn’t well so be it… Well on this first date, he told me over candlelit dinner that he was ready to settle down.. he was done with the women and parties as he has now got his son to consider, whom was now living with him as the mother could not control him. I fell for this hook line and sinker. Anyway, this was back in 2002, by 2003 he asked me to marry him, I said yes. We did not get married, as the day he proposed to me.. was also the day we had the biggest and first fight of our entire relationship about his son. 2 Days later we drove down to Cape Town to ask my Dad for my hand in marriage. 3 months later I still had no engagement ring or even the mention of setting a wedding date was basically nonexistent. His family were not aware of his proposal to me and I thought this was quite strange. Anyway, we did not get married at all, but the fighting just got worse, by 2005 I caught him having an affair with a woman that he picked up while doing a gig at a small pub. He is a muso. At the time he was distant, very protective of his phone and had a password put on it, in order for me to not check on his call register. He was having an affair with her for 5 months. At the time, I had bought him a car, as he was riding a bicycle , he was also a policeman, and resigned shortly after we started dating. Part of our fighting was the fact that he had resigned without even planning his future, he left me – his future wife with the burden of paying the bills and putting the food on the table. I provided for us for 3 years until one day, he screamed at me, I must stop sponging off him (We were staying in his house, I was paying the bills for us to survive), and even his very large family thought I was just using him. I made then the decision to buy my own home. I moved out of his house 4 months later, and into my place, I gave him the option to move in with me, which he then did. His son moved in with us as well, at the time he was 16 years of age. Not long after I moved into my place he started the same behaviour as when he was cheating on me in 2005.. I started snooping on his phone again, and found out he was seeing this women, yet again someone he met at a pub while doing a gig. This time nothing had happened yet.. as I had caught it way in time… he managed to convince me that he had made a mistake and will never do it again. I believed him. 5 months after this.. I found some racy pictures of me which he had taken of me in the nude on his son’s computer. I lost it.. I thought he would stick up for me, and send his son packing.. . I was so devastated that he did nothing, we ended up having a huge fight where I kicked him out of my house.. 5 months later.. I begged him to come back to me.! We ended up back together until recently, I found out he was seeing his ex wife again. I have since left him for good… the last conversation we had was him calling me sick (because again I checked his call register) and needing help. He said to me he is single, and that I have no hold on him.. that was our agreement when I begged him back 3 years ago. He said to me, his ex wife is just one of the many women he sees. He also said to me.. I treated you different to them, I treated you with respect!!! I have since found out that on camping trips when which I have not been able to join them, he and the son and a friend had women accompany them.. all the women were arranged by him. How could I have put myself through this for 8 years!! Was my self esteem so low that I put myself second? I am not sure why I did this.. at the time I thought I was going to die without him..and he was my everything.. now I am totally dead inside.. numb to put it mildly… even sick to my stomach… was I dating a psycho for all this time… who has an affair and takes their son with them – he was 15 at the time?
HELP ME! How do you I get him back?
He said he loved me all of the time. I feel like he still does… How can I make this work out between us without being allowed to talk to him? How can I make this work without pushing him away? How can I get his parents to like me? How can I know for sure if his friends are even telling the truth? Thanks for anyone who helps 
this has been pretty rough over the summer…And I’m really trying to be positive about it too…Oh! And if it doesn’t work out? Can anyone give me advice on how to make myself feel better about this whole situation?? Thank you!
Okay, so here’s what’s going on. I am 13 years old, I’ve been with a guy for 1 year and 2 days. Then he broke up with me. All of our friends were telling us to dump the other. We talked about it a couple of times and I said that they were just jealous. Then randomly he stopped talking to me for about 2 weeks. We had little texting conversations that last about 5-10 minutes. He always said he was busy and he had to go. He said “I love you” first too. Then I called him the night before our one year anniversary. I wanted to spend the day with him. I called him around 8. Well I got him in trouble because his parents hate me. They don’t even know me. So no text, call, or email on our anniversary from him. I felt really bad…I started texting his friend and I asked him if he had heard from him. He had…So I asked him to ask my boyfriend to call me. He said that my boyfriend said that he would get in trouble because his parents say he’s not allowed to talk to me. Now that I can believe. Then all of the sudden his friend said that my boyfriend wanted to break up because he couldn’t handle the “pressure” anymore. He said he’d call me the next day and explain. He never did…And I didn’t expect him to. The next night I accidentally told his friend that I wish things were different between me and my boyfriend. He ended up telling him and my boyfriend said that he didn’t believe me. I just said “Ok believe what you want.” and left it at that. His mom took his computer away so that he couldn’t email me too. So I have no way of contacting him but through his friends. (His friends never liked me so I don’t know if they’re even telling the truth). I’m pretty sure that if his parents would meet me they would like me…And I’m also pretty sure that our relationship could last longer than it did…And better than it was. We got so much crap from everyone because we were the only people to go out for a year in our school. I know that I shouldn’t beg for him back, or cry, or act miserable. I will look insecure…But it’s been 2 days since he dumped me and I’m pretty sure I’m under control. I just would really like some advice on how I could get him back… I swear I’m in love with him. Please don’t say that I’m too young to be “in love” because that’s your opinion…Just give me some advice and I’ll be happy
P.S. Sorry this is so long! :p
I’m afraid the only possible solution is to get your mum to contact the RSPCA again and explain how upset you are and that she has changed her mind about wanting to rehome the cats. If you are under 18 the RSPCA can’t deal with you directly.
When she handed the cats over your mum would have had to sign a form to say she had relinquished ownership of the cats. If they have already been placed in a new home the new owner may not be willing to give them back.
GAO!!! Look pls don’t kill yourself, and this is all you need to do
this one simple trick that makes wonders and even miracles
Its called
“Get over it”
thats it, do what you need to do and just leave it in the past. it’ll take time but soon you’ll feel better
Why Do I Miss Him So Much But Don’t Want Him Back?
Hi there,
So there’s this guy, we’ve known each other for about 2 years now and we’ve had an on/off relationship and when we are ‘on’ its great, and occasionally we will last for a while (Our longest is 6 weeks) but he is a serial cheater! Every time we get back together I will end up leaving him because he will cheat on me, EVERY TIME! And I know, I’m stupid for always taking him back and thinking he will change but deep down I know he will never change, anyway, the past 3 months have been a bit tricky because…get this…he has had 8 girlfriends in the space of 3 months-yes, 8! Thankfully I haven’t added to that list, we broke up 3 months ago because once again I found out he was cheating, then 2 days after we broke up I heard down the grapevine that he had broken up with the girl he had cheated on me with and got together with someone else!! Schmuck =/ Recently though he has been emailing me on FB loads, asking to meet up and saying he loves me and putting loads of kisses at the end of each message but he is doing it while he has a girlfriend, and when he is single too. But when we arrange to meet up, he never shows, so I’m sat there like a ninny waiting for him but don’t worry, I’m not doing that anymore because I invite him to my house now instead and at least that way I can watch tele and stuff. But he still doesn’t come, a couple weeks ago he was meant to come to my house but I went to town an hour before he was meant to arrive to have some girly time with my friend and we were waiting at the cash register when sure enough, he passed the shop with his girlfriend, and when I asked my friend what time it was, curious to why he was in town and not on his way to my house, she told me we had just under 20 minutes to get back to mine, well you shouldve seen the anger in my face! How dare he do this to me-AGAIN! I kind of expected it which is why I went into town but I just really wanted to keep up the hope that he would stop being such a let down =( And then we came across his cousin who told me that he had to work which is why he couldn’t come……another schmuck! So it was a routine, every two weeks or so he would split up with a girlfriend, be single for a couple days, then bag a new one, all the while sending me messages telling me he loves me and wants to see me, blah! Load of cr*p!!
But I’m just so confused, because I do want him back, even though he makes me physically sick when I think about him now because he has hurt me so bad, I think I just miss having a boyfriend.
How can I get over him?? How can I get out of this stupid phase of cooing over him even though I hate him at the same time?? I really want him to know how I feel but I’m sick of the emails, last night he gave me his new number and begged me to call him but I didn’t, instead I gave him my number and told him to call me if he ever needed me and he was meant to meet me today but when I emailed him last night for the whole where, when scenario, he didn’t email me back, oh no instead he got a new girlfriend! So he basically just ignored my emails. We haven’t spoken face to face in 3 months and its really gruelling to see him basically prostituting himself like this, 8 girlfriends in the space of 3 months is ridiculous!! I’m one of those people who want something real and stable, a life partner to marry and have kids with-dreamy I know! And I just can’t stop thinking that he is my life partner for some reason…its really getting me down.
HELP PLEASE!!
Oh and please be nice, don’t call me stupid or anything because I already know I am for taking him back so many times and still doting on him but I honestly can’t help it anymore, its like an immediate reaction when we break up, I will think about him for weeks, even months on end and can’t kick him out my system. And I can’t get a new boyfriend because no one likes me for me, I’m not popular so there is an extremely low chance of someone coming along who actually wants me for me and not for a joke or dare. (Yeah, been there done that, wasn’t nice =/.)
Thank You xx
PS. Sorry it’s so long! Oh and I’m 15, he’s recently 17. No I’m not too young for love and yes I did love him, and I don’t know if I still do.
Okay, one thing u need to know about boys and men, a lot of the time we don’t know what we want, and. Its obvious that old boy is stringing u along and having fun with everyone else. It also seem like u have to much time on ur hand to be thinking about one person. This is what u should do, get involve in about 3 activities that take up most of ur days, for every 4 hour u don’t talk to him (internet count), add a day u don’t talk to him, everytime u start thinking about him do a exercise u don’t like at least 20 reps, everytime he call ot text u do a different exercise u don’t like, and everytime someone say his name u got to scream the alphabet. I know it may sound stupid, but if u commit to it, you’ll stop thinking about him, stay or get in shape, and start laughing when u hear his name. Do this for a solid to days, and if it work extend it more and more. Hope everything work out for u.
I think ur relation with this guy is very difficult to maintain becoz u can’t go against everyone, specially ur friends. It will always create probs in ur relationship.
I would say that very young. Don’t get me wrong pls, u have plenty of time, u will meet plenty of people, & u will have plenty of oppurtunities.
Every time we get in a relationship, we think this is it, very hard to get over it, but time is a great healer & things change so dramatically that the things/ppl seem most important to us become completely unimportant some time later.
But anyway, just keep urself busy, study hard, take part in school activities etc & u will get over it.