Guys, Can You Identify The Guaranteed Signs Of A Breakup? Do You Know If She Is Going To Dump You?
You are happy and love with a woman who you think is great. In your mind your relationship is fabulous. You all have your issues but for the most part, it is smooth sailing. But recently you have begun to have some doubts about your girlfriend. She has been very cranky the last few weeks and has taken to snapping your head off for the slightest thing. She also seems to not want to spend any time with you and is always busy with her friends or family. When you corner her and ask her what is wrong, she just shrugs, says nothing is wrong and changes the subject. Unfortunately, these are all guaranteed signs of a breakup.
Remember that there are usually warning signs when one partner is unhappy. Most breakups don't just happen without any warning at all. If she is really unhappy, you need to be able to recognize the signs and you need to be able to identify the almost guaranteed signs of a breakup.
Do you know what 3 of the guaranteed signs of a breakup are? Let's review them.
- She is uncommunicative.
- She is secretive.
- She avoids you whenever possible.
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If you notice any of these signs, you are going to be faced with some difficult questions. You have to ask yourself:
- Do you still love your girlfriend?
- Do you want to stay together?
- Are you happy in this relationship?
- Is this relationship worth saving?
If you ultimately decide that you don't want to save this relationship and you really could care less if she leaves you, then do nothing. By saying nothing to her and not addressing any of your problems, you will almost certainly ensure that she will break up with sooner or later and your relationship with her will end. You may be relieved that she is going to do the dirty deed and leave you which saves you the trouble of dumping her.
But, if you decide that you can't live without her and you want to save this relationship, you are going to have to quickly take action. Your girlfriend has already demonstrated guaranteed signs of a breakup and you will need to address the situation as fast as possible.
should I get back with my ex? (drug related)?
I know this is a question that only I can answer, I’m just looking for some experience stories from other people in the same situation.
My boyfriend and I were together for almost 6.5 years (we’re both 27) and he broke up with me a few months ago. Things were good with us up until the end, but what led to our break up was all on him. He was really getting stressed by work, was getting into a lot of drugs (and behaving erratically/bipolar). Over the years he’s had on and off drug problems and Ive spent a lot of time crying over our relationship and just HIM because i’ve been so worried about his health. But at the end I was exhausted, just over everything. Because of all the worrying, fighting, just being so stressed out over things I couldn’t change.
So at the end I told him that he either has to get off drugs or we have to break up….and then we broke up. It was a clean break, we didn’t call each other. Although I still love him to death, I would do anything for him.
So he called me a few weeks ago begging for me to take him back. Apparently he’s changed his entire life around. He’s been off drugs for almost this entire time and has drug tests to prove it and has gone back to school to finish his BA, quit his stressful job and got a different one.
I love all these changes, and I love him. But I’ve sort of been dating someone new who I like, but as much as I could like someone I just met a few weeks ago. But there’s no baggage with this new guy and things are calm/fun/not stressful. And it’s not really “dating” either, just hanging out, but he’s cute and I enjoy his company.
But I love my ex. If I could be guaranteed that all this BS isn’t going to happen again I would get back together with him in a second! But of course thats not possible.
Should I give up on trying to be friends with my ex again?
The story is, we were friends for 4 years previous to our relationship. We got together when I was 14, he was 16. Things were great for several months. Then he started pressuring me to do drugs with him, which I am very opposed to. I broke up with him, but was very nice about it. He said that he still wanted to be friends, and I agreed wholeheartedly.
But…
Since our falling out, he has not said a SINGLE thing to me. Won’t look at me, won’t talk to me, won’t even acknowledge the fact that I exist. I told myself “OK, give him some time, he’s still upset. He’ll get over it and things will be back to normal.” NOT! I gave him a month. Nothing. On his birthday, I dashed off a quick email to him to tell him Happy Birthday. Nothing. It is now almost 4 months later, he has not said a word to me since I broke up with him. The next school year is approaching, and we are guaranteed to have a class together where we sit RIGHT NEXT to eachother. It is VERY awkward the way things are now. I understand that he was upset, and wouldn’t have expected him to contact me over the summer. But now that school will be back in session, if nothing has changed as far as his opinion about me, then should I try to apologize again, or simply tell myself that he is a bitter seed and give up.
I’m almost done, I swear!
Now personally I think he is being a bit of a hypocrite. HE was the one who initiated the relationship. HE was the one that first suggested that we remain friends. And now HE is the one that is ignoring all communication I make with him. So what am I supposed to do here? Is it best to:
a. Apologize again for hurting him and tell him that I still care about him as a friend?
b. Pretend as if nothing happened between us?
c. Give up on any potential post-relationship friendship?
Don’t try to tell me that I am “clearly not over him and that I am trying to re-establish the relationship in hopes that we might get back together.” I am absolutely, 100% over him in any sexual way. I simply want to maintain the friendship that had been such a joy before we became involved.
So please, some advice, or experience you’ve had in this situation. Thank you all for reading and responding to my novel-of-a-question, lol.
.Move on it’s over.HE meant friends well the mood takes him.Otherwise your nobody.So just leave me alone.Don’t apologise or encourage him
should i get back with my ex?
I just ended what i would consider a codependent relationship which lasted about 2 years. She completely relied on me for her sense of everything, entertainment, interactions, conversation, etc. after about a year of dating she slowly just started to hang out with me and no one else. She just really really liked me and couldn’t understand why i needed to hang out and keep up with friends, this unfortunately cut me off from a lot of friends i held dear, luckily i have great friends and they have been really helpful.
While i know i really feed into and enabled this behavior and could have been more honest in the relationship about my needs and wants i wasn’t and neither was she. feeling isolated and that the relationship was not allowing me to develop how i wanted i broke up with her.
I really care about this girl and she means alot to me so i really want to see her happy and that is where my problem is. we have been broken up for seven days and in those seven days she has been with family and friends they told her she was being to way clingy and that a relationship cant work if it isnt allowed to breathe. so she has been reconnecting with friends from before we started dating.
Me and her talked yesterday and she was really level headed she didnt seem to be the glum codependent unfufilled girl i had broken up with. she was seeing the positive in things and was genuinely happy although completely devastated and heartbroken. She wants another chance she says she was in a funk and that she is so sorry and didnt realize how she was cutting me off and how controlling she was being.
And while she seems really genuine and i can tell she really loves me and really wants to make this work. i dont know how i feel. breaking up with her is the hardest thing i have ever had to do, but i feel like it was supposed to be i gave my heart to this girl and wanted to marry her but it was way to overbearing. I feel really confused. i told her i am not ready to just jump back in a relationship to which she just want to start off as friends talk, get lunch hang out like once in a while to show me that she has actually changed.
While i appreciate and see that she is really trying to make things up i feel this is unfair to her i told her i will be friends and we can talk, get lunch every now and again, but i cant guarantee that it is going to end up with us back together. which she said she didnt care she just wanted a chance.
I dont want to hurt this girl i really love and care for her. And i would have loved things never to get to this point but they did. and i feel like its not fair to her to put herself out there and really try to make things up. when im not sure how i feel. what should i do has anyone been in a position like this what did you do how did it turn out.
the relationship wasnt all bad it had good points but it was not healthy because of the codependency.
How Can I Get My Ex-Boyfriend Back?
we broke up about 3 months ago. and im still in love with him. i need him badly right now. my life seems to be falling apart right now (other reasons) but ive tried everything! for about a month after we broke up he still called me and told me that we would get back together, and my friends told me to ignore him and make him think, i didn’t…then after a while he stopped i kept calling him and then he said it was over, i still kept calling him….i even begged (sadly) then i came up with plan that i would ignore him and look my best, but yet be friendlly it worked for about 2 weeks and he would randomly start talking to me..came to a party that one of my friends had (he would never go to) and started to talk to my friends out of no where, and then asked me why i wasnt with them, then he started hanging around this younger girl…which i swear is a total guy….he hates girly girls but i didn’t expect him to date a total man!!! im the type that hates being know for being a girl girl also, but i know when to look my best and not act like “one of the guys” and such….every time we talk he mentions her….gives her a ride home everyday (they live not far from each other) and hangs out with her on weekends….she broke up with her ex about a week ago. and from what i hear she still likes him…..her and her ex have been on and off for about a year now….and my ex an I were dating for almost a year….we did everything together…even went ot funerals and vacations…we have liked each other for about 2 years then dated and now im stuck here…. when we did break up he said he still loved me…….what should i do to get him back..ive tried to getting over him…ive tried dating…and such but he still is there, i need him back desperately please help me…i need some ways that will guarantee him back to me…..i cant get over him no matter what i do…..it makes me want him even more
please help
Should I tell parents I’m back together with an ex…and if so, how?
After a temporary separation, my ex-gf felt we both missed each other too much to remain seperated, so we got back together. Currently, we date and hang out behind my parents’ backs. My parents were “ok” with her before the breakup, but after she appeared to “leave” me, they were against me even talking to her. They were against dating to begin with (they are the type that believe dating would distract a person from their studies, even though i dont believe thats the case with me). To make things worse, recently they nearly caught me with her, but I lied about it and got away. I was hoping to tell them before that, but now i think its too late. However, my gf doesnt want to see me at the cost of me lying to my parents. But telling my parents would almost guarantee a breakup because my parents would force it. WHAT SHOULD I DO??? I love my parents, but i also love this girl..i dont know what to do!
You should tell your parents.. the should know. Also talk to them about you and her situation explain how much you care for her and love to be with her..
good luck
Quit stressing, if it is meant to happen, it will. xox