Forgiveness And How To Get Your Ex Back
Author: james Kirk
How to get your ex back and move forward is a difficult thing to figure out when someone has been hurt. Most likely it was both of you who were hurt and both of you who did the hurting. Forgiveness is essential to any relationship being mended and has to happen if you want to know how to win your ex back.
Learning how to get your ex back is going to involve learning humility on both sides. Being selfish is what got your relationship in trouble at the beginning. You decided that the individual was more important than what you two had as a couple.
People make mistakes. It is true that some mistakes are too big to overcome but most mistakes that people make in relationships are trivial. They are also made in the heat of the moment and often times can be exaggerated. Realize that it is easy for someone to say or do the wrong thing when they aren?t thinking clearly.
If you have had the wrong thing said or done to you, think of the context. What was going on around that time that made things as bad as what it got? Was there something going on in one of your lives outside of the relationship that brought unnecessary strain? If you can recognize what it was you have a chance to learn how to get your ex back.
If you had your pride and feelings hurt by the actions of another, can you forgive them? Can you suck back in your pride and realize that it was a mistake and what you had was greater than the incidents that drove you apart? Can you be willing to forgive it and let it go? You will have to learn how to do this if you want to know how to get your ex back.
If you hurt someone dear to you, you need to suck back in your pride as well. Realize that you made a mistake. Own it and take responsibility for your actions. If it is important to you to know how to get back your ex then you have to realize that there are things that you are going to have to correct in the way that you handle situations. If there is some problem or mistake that you keep making, get counseling or some kind of help. Don?t expect that you can continue to do the same thing over and over and expect different results.
Be able to approach each other with humility, not holding yourself up over the other person. Stop thinking that you are too big to come back and say, ?I?m sorry.? When someone says to you that they are sorry don?t hold it over them and say, ?Yeah, you should be.? Decide that what you have as a couple is more important than the problems that came and decide to work together as a team to overcome them. If you do this then you have found how to get your ex back.
PLEASE help, how do i get someone back that hurt me?
So i’m gonna try to make this as short as posssibleee cuz i know it can get boring.
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this girl hit me with a birdie in badminton today and acted like it was no big deal…she’s been nice to me in the past, yet she for some reason donesnt like me or whatever.
i’m doing a project with her that’s tomorrow, so she has to talk to me, and she acts all nice. but i knwo she hurt me on purpose.
so how do i get back at her?
i want to write a facebook post that only allows HER to see, but idk what to write, i thought of writing about karma and stuff like that….but idk!!! she’ a strong believer in god….and um idk, anything will work, thanksss… and don’t tell me that i shouldnt be fighting with her like this, youre not me, and you don’t know how i feel. thanks, and im generally a nie person!
thx guys, for now i’m gonna let it go. i wrote a whole post on facebook,and as about to click “post status” but i deleted it.
that bitch will learn the hard way, i just have to forget about it/
strange, people ive never met over yahooo answers are helping me better than my friends! wowowo
how do you get someone to back off for a while without hurting their feelings?
How do you get someone back you really loved?
I was with this girl for 4 and a half years. We broke up and i haven’t taken it well and its been 5 months. We’re still good friends and she still likes me, our breakup was just because of “wrong timing” but waiting for the “right time” hurts me.. We were both so happy together. How do i get that back, how do i get her back? I don’t know what to do.
Well if you were both so happy together.. how could it be wrong timing. If you still like each other… talk to her about it. Say you want to get back with her. Explain that it hurts waiting for the right time. Im sure if it was the wrong time…you would have noticed earlier into your relationship. Your happy together…so why are you apart?
How do you get back someone that you hurt?
I had a really great boyfriend, but I pushed away so many times cause I was afraid of the feelings I had for him… now I want to be back with him, so anyways what would you do???
They need to give that person some space first of all – especially if they aren’t ready to talk about it. The person is probably still hurt over the ordeal. I would try to be that persons friend first, and allow them time to heal. I would not smoother them with harrassing them to get back together as they probably aren’t ready and will resent you more for forcing the issue. Give them time and space and let them come to you when they are ready to talk. Tell them when they are ready to talk that you will be there to listen.
Just like a woman. Mindless!
How long would you keep trying to get someone back?
Let’s say that you was living with someone for about 5 years. And you messed up and cheated on that person, no excuse for doing it, but you did it and your bf/bf moved out because of it. Now you feel really bad about it, you realize that you wished that you had never ever done it and wanted that person that you lived with back into your life. You would do anything to try to get them back and never cheat on them again. You realize that you really do love this person a lot even though you were stupid enough to cheat on them. How long would you keeping trying to get them back before you just give up trying? What all would you do to try to get them to come back to you? And no I am not the one that cheated. Just wondering how the cheater would handle this, knowing that they hurt someone that loved them and you want to make things right again between you and them again IF they will even take you back. As you have no clue if they will or not.
I am not the one that cheated. Read what I wrote I AM NOT THE ONE THAT CHEATED!! I DO NOT BELIEVE IN CHEATING PERIOD!!
For all you folks out there that thinks it was me your WRONG it was him. I MOVED OUT All I wanted to know is How long would a you keep trying to get them back? And what would you do to try to get them back. Geeze people STAB ME IN THE BACK I’M THE VICTIM NOT HIM!!!!!!!!!!
I did it …I made a very big mistake…and it did come back to me recently. Yes…absolutely
“What goes around ,comes around” right back to you
Good luck
I’m sorry to hear about your problem…You say that this guy treated you badly, so i think to end it was the best thing you could do.
Still, to move on is not so easy sometimes.
Sounds like you have to boost your self worth. Surround yourself with friends and family who help you to feel better, and take part in positive activities. This may get your mind off the negative things.
Also, I have found that time is a great healer. After a while, you find yourself thinking less about the bad past, and more about what you will do in the future.
Don’t ever think you’re not enough for somebody. You sound like a loyal and caring person who deserves the same… Try to remain positive where possible. *hugs*
FOR GUYS ONLY!!!! Did it come back to you after hurting someone???…Read Details…?
Ok, for guys only…(and if girls want to answer too) Ok, have you ever hurt someone like a girl that really cared and loved you and you hurt her and left her to be with someone else? Did it ever come back to you? Did you think that the new girl was going to be better but it turned out that the girl you left was the one and you never saw that until it was too late? Did karma occur to you and how the saying goes “what goes around, comes back around”? Do you think that it’s possible to leave someone that you took for granted and realized that you were wrong in leaving that person when it was to late to get that person back????
How to get someone off your back?
Hello well recently this girl has been constantly talking to me and I have a feeling she fancies me. Anyways I don’t fancy her infact, I fancy someone else. The other thing is that this girl who keeps talking to me is that special kind of girl where you can’t hurt their feelings or they might do something dangerous. Especially for her because she is deaf and needs a hearing aid. Another reason why I wan’t her off my back is that my social life has been hurt because of her. She is the kind of girl at school who only has a few friends but is also the one that some people make fun of. I find she is a nice person but she is keeping me from hanging out with my friends. So basically how do I get her off my back without hurting her too much?
In my experience there is no way to keep from hurting her. These types are known to me to be really annoying and occasionally judgmental. If you tell her to get off your back(whether it’s in a nice way or mean way) she’ll hate you and make you feel like sh*it and you’ll worry about her. If you don’t do anything you won’t be much better off. She’ll eff you up either way.
That’s how I feel man.
But maybe if you’re just a really REALLY sweet guy she’ll respond differently to you wanting her to leave you alone.
How do you get your self-esteem back when someone hurts you?
I just got my heart broke from this guy that I’ve been off and on for the past three years, and this time I am really done. But now I feel just so low and like if I wasn’t good enough for him then I must not be good enough for any guy. I mean I was so good to him, and loved more than anybody else, he even told me no one loved him except for me. But he treated me so badly and i cant take it any more. I just feel so low ’cause I don’t know what i did wrong, and just that since I was good to him and pretty much to everybody that i sill wont be enough for another guy that I may fall in love with. What am I to do. Please help. Thanks!
lol already tried didn’t work
How do you get someone back that you love dearly?
Heres the story. I was with someone who I truely believed to be my one and only. He hurt me pretty badly though. But I was still with him because I love him. But unfortunately, my anger for him hurting me intensified and I was always angry with him for nothing, holding everything against him. I asked him to change for me. I asked him to change for me. I asked him to get my trust back, I asked him to stop lying to me. I asked a lot from him. All reasonable yes. And he did. he completely changed all that for me. But I wouldnt allow myself to see it. I just kept thinking the worst. I never gave myself the chance to actually see him changing. Then my anger got worse. I wanted him to do more, show me more. So I broke up with him, thinking that he wouldn’t leave. And for awhile, he didn’t. He stuck by me. But then I pushed him away too far. He met someone else in the process. In seeking advice on how to deal with me, he met someone and then they went on a date. They kissed. The laughed. They clicked. That very moment, I knew I had lost him. I broke down. I realized all my wrongs and I tried to change for him. But I was too late. I got over my anger. I tried everything. Nothing worked. I can’t get him back. Seeing how I truely love him, should i move on and leave him alone or should I keep fighting for him. Should I not give up?
What’s the best way to get back on someone who’s cheated on you?
Together for 16 years and three kids – then he starts cheating. The other one woman gets pregnant. I’m getting a divorce but it’s not enough. How best to hurt him back?
You know what, this isn’t the answer you want, but don’t try to get back at him. You will hurt yourself in the process. If he can throw away 16 years chances are there aren’t many things you can do that will hurt him.
Sorry for what you are going through, lift your head up and be strong. It may actually surprise him that you can carry on life without him. That may be your best “revenge” of all.